Part 2: Performance or Manipulation: A Study on Men’s Fashion
A Recipe (+Love) for the Modern Soft Boy
Read me first:
If you have a phone (ie. if you are reading this) or you have legs and have stepped outside in a major city, you are likely no stranger to the growing prevalence of men’s fashion.
Once lingering in the dust of women’s silhouettes and runway breaking color-ways, men’s prêt-à-porter is picking up steam faster than Aimé Leon Dore can pump out it’s freddo cappuccinos.
It led the Blasé gals to ask: have the tables turned? or at least equalized? is men’s fashion now melting under the female gaze?
In this four part series, we’ll be exploring our Blasé babe takes.
Ambi here serving up some sillies + male love for dessert. Buen provecho!
A Recipe for the Modern Soft Boy
Ingredients:
1 pair of straight leg jeans – Acne Loose Fit Jeans or Levi’s 501s will do
1 baggy t-shirt – APC Lewis Tee (like all good recipes the quality of the ingredients make a difference – you know it’s APC 😌)
1 washed or waffle knit sweater – something like this or this
1 tote bag – Aime Leon Dore Crochet Tote – definitely will surprise and delight a crowd
1 pair of hater blockers – OFF–white TUSCONs
1 pair of nonchalant sneakers – Margiela Replicas
Instructions:
Place jeans on. If you are a short king, it is your time to shine. Cuffing goes a long way in fighting against alpha syndrome. If shorts are the only option, aim for 5 inch inseams. No more. No less.
Belt should be vintage, belt should not appear new. It will make you look like you are trying too hard…remember, you are soft. Like the leather of your dad’s favorite waistband that you steal from him next time you are home.
Baggy tee, on. DO NOT TUCK. Effortless, cool, flowy, like the watery depths of your heart.
Sweater tied over shoulders, and only over shoulders. Better to leave at home if it is too hot because you were never meant to wear it and the added heat around your neck always leaves your hairline sweaty.
Glasses to be worn when on the street but taken off in moments where eye contact could likely be held for more than 3 seconds. Subways, stopped at a red light walking on the street, grocery stores, and any and all check out lines are not appropriate environments for glasses to be on your face. Make sure you place them slowly back in the case so you give people an extra chance to see where they are from.
For accessories, work with what you have – simple gold or silver chain, also ideal that it is a family heirloom so you can tell the story behind it. Beaded colorful necklaces are also very cute and show that you are playful.
Recipe Notes
Next time you are with a girl, bring up how fun it would be if you made each other name bracelets. She’ll love that you want to do things with your hands and are implicitly fulfilling her Swiftie dreams, plus you’ll fill a gap in your accessories.
The caveat to the glasses being worn: IF you are in situations that overwhelm you due to their intimacy or requirement for you to be perceived, you can place your glasses on. As a trade for connection, you will appear mysterious and subtle. One should not miss an opportunity for intrigue. CHIMI’S Colton’s are a great indoor/outdoor choice.
Elwood should also be somewhere in your closet so that the girl you end up ghosting can wear it for the night when she is cold. Also a fair price point if she ends up stealing it - at least she’ll know you have swag.
You can swap the Aime Leon Dore bag for Jacquemus’s La sac Marcel. It will show you have character and are well traveled – iykyk…Capri papi.
Keep a book in your tote at all times. Should be placed on a cafe table when seated. It’s okay that you haven’t opened a book’s cover since high school.
B*tches love kitschy keychains, a rogue journal, and a sneaky pack of cigs (Parliament to be exact).
Reviews for This Recipe:
“When I saw his outfit, he was the kinda guy who could handle my daddy issues but also the kinda guy I want to f*ck”
“We met while he was reading at Washington Square Park. <3”
“He’s definitely so in touch with his sensitive side. He had this rose keychain and I think a peeped a journal in his bag…!!!”
“He’S sO Co00000l.”
“Can’t you tell he is intentional???? And he travels. King.”
Please note that this recipe may contain common allergens such as avoidant tendencies, difficulty communicating, and randomly jetting out of town when life gets rough.
Bon appetit.
Chef’s Note:
I really love men. And I have so much faith in the evolution of the male species the entire human race.
I hope men’s emotional capacity continues to soften at the same rate as collective style. I hope we can all realize the beauty in their hard traits too.
I hope humanity can see the beauty in duality, the space in between the soft and hard, the necessity for the dance, but most importantly, the safety within it… in all of the forms it takes.
The openheartedness that’s needed for healthy holding of it all.
Cheers to staying soft (and hard in the right ways….:P <3).
Kiss kiss.
Blasé Fit Check:
Submit a fit. Be it yourself, your boyfriend or any male that catches your gaze for better or worse. We'll share the vibes it's #giving in our wrap up post, anonymously of course. Send photos to @blaseraire on IG or via email at blaseraire@gmail.com. 💋
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